I was a victim of extortion on ashley madison.

To start with i left a dirty message on her phone(she asked me to) using my own cell phone.The woman's profile said she was <span style="text-decoration: underline;">28 yrs old.</span> During online chat on yahoo later on,she said she wanted sex and wanted to pretend to be 14 yrs old. I foolishly agreed to this(whatever turns her on).I also foolishly used my real contact name on messenger as my yahoo account kept fouling up.&nbsp; <p>As it turns out this is a man who blackmailed me by googling my name and finding my place of work and used the chat messages and a yahoo video to twist the whole thing into one embarrassing situation.&nbsp;</p> <p>He emailed me an extortion letter and posted the video online with my name on it and my voice is clearly heard. This in hindsight is an obvious setup. I agreed to pay only because i am embarrassed. I have records of the money wire i sent.</p> <p>The police have called me to say they have other victims but they want me to come down to the station for a statement.&nbsp;</p> <p>They say they want to get this guy.</p> <p>Should i be worried about this? The police never gave me any indication(although that is not their job).&nbsp;</p>


Asked almost 7 years ago in Ontario
Categories: Criminal Law  Defamation, Libel, Slander  Privacy Law

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Daniel R Jardine

Answer by Daniel R Jardine

VerifiedNew Brunswick lawyer


Worried about what?  Whether he decides to release the tapes is not a legal matter that a lawyer can help you with.

If you're asking if you should be worried about engaging in cyber sex, with a person who informed you that they were playing the role of a 14 year old in some online fantasy, you likely don't have anything to worry about.  You had no intention to engage in cyber sex with a 14 year old, as the both of you had agreed to role play in this predetermined online fantasy.
As far as the defamation/slander tags that you've placed on this message, you would likely have no recourse.  defamation/slander/libel requires you to prove that you are not the type of person that would do/say what teh individual is alleging.  In this case, based on what you've already told us, you clearly are the type of person who would leave dirty phone messages and pretend to have cyber sex with a person pretending to be a 14 year old girl.  I'm not judging, I'm just being unequivocally clear with you that you have not been defamed because you've actually done everything this person is alleging.

 

Posted almost 7 years ago

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<br />Daniel, I believe you have missed the crux of the matter here.&nbsp; What makes this situation a problem is that the extorionist has set it up such that the writer appears to have been engaging in cyber sex with an actual 14 year old girl, as opposed to an adult playing the role of a fourteen year old girl.&nbsp; There is a very big difference there.&nbsp; The extorionist will be guilty of slander/defamation/liable if he is misrepresenting that the writer engaged in cyber sex with a 14 year old girl.&nbsp; Given that he has done nothing illegal, the writer should be comfortable cooperating with the police.

Posted almost 7 years ago


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<br />In cities like NYC where their are a slew of what would appear to be well organized i-phone hate mobs that infringe on privacy rights of individuals, new realms of unfair play such as the social networking platform Ashley Madison, may become a more commonly targeted stomping ground for hate agendas. Neglecting to be conscious of unspoken common courtesy that as citizens, strangers in public&nbsp;typically abide by, it should be no surprise that a backlash for what recent law defines as "gang stalking" will perhaps influence more targeted hate agendas that will pray on Ashley Madison users. &nbsp;To turn a blind eye to an increasingly difficult crime to be brought to justice such as gang stalking in heavily populated metropolitan areas, will only produce a means of illegal recourse for those wanting to infuse what some may consider, a just dose of bad medicine to those who regularly victimize innocent citizens by collectively networking cell phone hate mobs to do dirt in the city. &nbsp;A consequence of not bringing serious preventable crime to justice is the off shot of further crimes being planned and committed. &nbsp;What is good for the goose is not always good for the gander, until that is someone is aware and ready to act on tackling the gander who is sitting pretty posed as a duck to be plucked...aka Ashley Madison! &nbsp;The above gentleman's hard lived experience should not come as a striking surprise given what we already understand about things like well say.....nightclub tire marking resulting in D.U.I. call-ins to&nbsp;the police...or lets say....the array of horrific instances of crime on Craigslist, that at times appears to be a devils playground free-for-all. &nbsp;I think in America currently given the nature of ease the Internet provides to users, and the propensity for criminals to partake very openly and publicly in wrongful acts involving cold calculation, those who use such veins of communication like Ashley Madsion&nbsp;should imagine the intent of the billions of souls that the Internet enables one to potentially encounter, even if for retaliation. &nbsp;Just a thought!&nbsp;

Posted over 6 years ago


Daniel R Jardine

Answer by Daniel R Jardine

VerifiedNew Brunswick lawyer


Daniel, I believe you have missed the crux of the matter here.  What makes this situation a problem is that the extorionist has set it up such that the writer appears to have been engaging in cyber sex with an actual 14 year old girl, as opposed to an adult playing the role of a fourteen year old girl.  There is a very big difference there.  The extorionist will be guilty of slander/defamation/liable if he is misrepresenting that the writer engaged in cyber sex with a 14 year old girl.  Given that he has done nothing illegal, the writer should be comfortable cooperating with the police.

Dear Writer from Ontario.  The initial poster made no representation that the other party was going to present the information in the manner you've suggested.  If the extortionist wants to release the video alleging that the individual engaged in cyber sex with an individual that was pretending to be 14 years old, then there is nothing slanderous about it; the poster admittedly has engaged in this sort of behaviour.  Furthermore, I've never suggested that he did anything illegal or that he should not cooperate with the police.

Posted over 6 years ago

Please note that this is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice to you. Legal advice pertaining to your particular situation can only be provided by a lawyer who has met with you to obtain all pertinent background information necessary to give you a formal legal opinion. For formal legal advice, hire a lawyer (many give a free first consultation). Contact Daniel R Jardine, or search the Lawyer Directory.

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